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Agree. Expanding on ‘emotional damage’ - I’d say principally this would be softening the blow by not putting someone’s sense of who they are/sense of worth unde
by microjim 5y ago
Agree. Expanding on ‘emotional damage’ - I’d say principally this would be softening the blow by not putting someone’s sense of who they are/sense of worth under threat.
Failing that, you get one of two counterproductive effects:
a) They feel a compulsive need to deny the threat and defend against it, doing something dumb or unwarranted as a result.
b) They lose that sense of worth, and become impotent. Recovery from this depends on their environment and ability to build themselves back up.
That said, if you’re too ‘nice’, there’s a chance you’re being too subtle and the message doesn’t get through.
- zozbot234 5y agoOh, I agree for sure that we shouldn't taunt or bait other users, in ways that would hurt them emotionally and tempt them to attack in turn. That's just as bad as an overt attack - it destroys the spirit of a robust debate. But this all falls under a proper understanding of respect and decorum, at least as far as I'm concerned. These words just feel more precise and accurate when referencing these things. Which helps making the norm stick.