Yea, agreed. In the distinction I was highlighting, the women I've dated were all operating in good faith, which is what made it possible for us to work togeth

Yea, agreed. In the distinction I was highlighting, the women I've dated were all operating in good faith, which is what made it possible for us to work together to overcome their temporary lapses of the ability to think clearly. I didn't see this as implying anything about their character or intelligence other than the fact that they weren't perfect. It felt like exactly the same thing as the lapses of compassion that I tend towards when arguing, where the focus on truth makes me choose my words less carefully and casually say hurtful things (this was also something we worked on together in those relationships). This is in stark contrast to the people for whom dishonesty is core to their being, who literally can't comprehend the level of honesty you and I expect from (and deliver to) those we're close with. It sounds like you're saying that your experience with that gf was closer to that than she was to the good-faith-but-imperfect type of person I was referring to. In that case, good call.