I think you have a good actionable advice. I would highlight that it's important to get your own life in order before you decide to get kids. It's a great respo

I think you have a good actionable advice. I would highlight that it's important to get your own life in order before you decide to get kids. It's a great responsibility after all and it should not be done only because "I'm trying to find my place in life". Obviously, HN readers are well aware of it, but (mental) health is the best start.