Congrats on your new family member, that's awesome. He probably will never have any career expectations of you. He'll probably have parenting expectations of y

Congrats on your new family member, that's awesome. He probably will never have any career expectations of you. He'll probably have parenting expectations of you. So if you want to optimize one of these platforms with him in mind, it'll be easier to focus your energy on the latter. I had some tough but therapeutic discussions about this with my spouse a long time ago. At the time I was a workaholic. On top of that, I had 5% of your savings and just found out that I lost the client providing 30% of my income. I had just finished a guilt-filled workaholic spree to try to rebuild my clientele and almost wiped myself out. I had kids but no feeling of any reason to live, which I think you understand is pretty jacked up. I eventually chose to reexamine my work life really thoroughly. My results were showing that it wasn't as important to me as I thought it should be anyway. I hired a business coach to help with that side. And I took all the risks I could with my work life, cutting down my hours and saying yes to more time with family. Looking back now, I had suffered way too much by having zero boundaries. I think I thought that was a good thing, that I shattered through all of them like the hulk or something. But those boundaries were the line between "healthy, happy" and "good luck with that." it didn't work. Whatever you decide, hang in there and give yourself time to think it over and plan it out. Make a strategy. You won't need to improvise. You can run tests and see results, find new ways of being and working. Take better care of yourself, look after yourself, no more martyrdom, it doesn't really help. Any new approach you take is probably going to benefit from your thoughtful side, even just by dint of your posting and writing through it here. It will probably be better for your child as well. Take care.