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>Now I roll out of bed when my alarm goes off and do daily stand-up on zoom in my home office literally 5 minutes later. My brain is literally still asleep. Yo

>Now I roll out of bed when my alarm goes off and do daily stand-up on zoom in my home office literally 5 minutes later. My brain is literally still asleep. You can fix this yourself, incredibly easily. Personally I have never changed my alarm clock based on if I'm WFH. My wife is happy to pop in her headphones if I ask her to while I'm working. I keep scheduled breaks. If I decide in the morning that the dirty dishes are bothering me then I might do them on my lunch break or when I "get home". And to be fair, if you heard a loud bang at your office anyone would go check it out immediately, no difference at home.

bckr 5y ago
It's interesting to see how the pro-WFH folks largely seem to sneer at pro-office folks' complaints, regarding them as trivial. I'm not seeing the other way around in this or other recent threads. Of course, this may be partially explained by the structural pressure against WFH, which has left its proponents on the defensive. But it strikes me as anti-compassionate.
- McNutty 5y ago
  I certainly can empathize with people who have genuine WFH issues like having kids at home, no separate working areas available. But seeing people complaining because they refuse to set their alarm clock or take any basic ownership of their own lives, c'mon!
  - donatj 5y ago
    Most of what I wrote centered around lack of social interaction, but your comments don’t touch on that at all. You got fixated on the very minor point about my alarm clock. The comments have the tone of someone telling a person with depression to stop being so sad. This has nothing to do with my alarm clock and I have no idea why you’re so stuck on it. If I set my alarm clock earlier, I do what? Stare at a wall for an hour I could be sleeping? Come on. The entire point I was making was the pandemic took my thing to do before work, my moment of Zen. Kids would be great. Kids would give me something to do, something to live for. I don’t have kids, we can’t have kids, it’s a sore spot, thanks for bringing it up. > My wife is happy to pop in her headphones if I ask her to while I'm working. I’m not married to your wife. Different people have different relationships. My wife is going to want to use the entertainment center in her time off, and it wouldn’t be fair for me to put limits on her time off. It’s also fine and dandy that you’re able to ignore your life duties at home, but not all of us have that luxury; not all of our minds work that way. It’s simply not a thing I can shut off. I am at home, my brain is in at home mode, which is consciously aware of all the responsibilities of being at home at all times. My life has two states right now, trying to work in a place I find lonely, isolating and highly distracting, followed by hours of being alone after my wife leaves for work a little before 3pm. It’s not great, I do not like it, no matter how much you tell me I should and it’s my fault I don’t. I love my wife very much, more than I had any idea I was capable of loving another person, but I go literal months where she is the only human interaction I have outside checkout clerks. I am losing my goddamn mind. We got a dog early into the pandemic. She’s beautiful and the one saving grace of the entire thing. She’s not a great conversationalist though. And before you bring up walking the dog as something I could do before standup, my dog literally gets irritated if I wake her up before 10 AM. She’s a Shiba Inu, you can accurately read the irritation level from the amount of side-eye she’s giving you. Here is her Instagram, my wife runs it https://www.instagram.com/yubabaandcompany/ https://www.instagram.com/yubabaandcompany/

bckr 5y ago

It's interesting to see how the pro-WFH folks largely seem to sneer at pro-office folks' complaints, regarding them as trivial. I'm not seeing the other way around in this or other recent threads. Of course, this may be partially explained by the structural pressure against WFH, which has left its proponents on the defensive. But it strikes me as anti-compassionate.

McNutty 5y ago
I certainly can empathize with people who have genuine WFH issues like having kids at home, no separate working areas available. But seeing people complaining because they refuse to set their alarm clock or take any basic ownership of their own lives, c'mon!
- donatj 5y ago
  Most of what I wrote centered around lack of social interaction, but your comments don’t touch on that at all. You got fixated on the very minor point about my alarm clock. The comments have the tone of someone telling a person with depression to stop being so sad. This has nothing to do with my alarm clock and I have no idea why you’re so stuck on it. If I set my alarm clock earlier, I do what? Stare at a wall for an hour I could be sleeping? Come on. The entire point I was making was the pandemic took my thing to do before work, my moment of Zen. Kids would be great. Kids would give me something to do, something to live for. I don’t have kids, we can’t have kids, it’s a sore spot, thanks for bringing it up. > My wife is happy to pop in her headphones if I ask her to while I'm working. I’m not married to your wife. Different people have different relationships. My wife is going to want to use the entertainment center in her time off, and it wouldn’t be fair for me to put limits on her time off. It’s also fine and dandy that you’re able to ignore your life duties at home, but not all of us have that luxury; not all of our minds work that way. It’s simply not a thing I can shut off. I am at home, my brain is in at home mode, which is consciously aware of all the responsibilities of being at home at all times. My life has two states right now, trying to work in a place I find lonely, isolating and highly distracting, followed by hours of being alone after my wife leaves for work a little before 3pm. It’s not great, I do not like it, no matter how much you tell me I should and it’s my fault I don’t. I love my wife very much, more than I had any idea I was capable of loving another person, but I go literal months where she is the only human interaction I have outside checkout clerks. I am losing my goddamn mind. We got a dog early into the pandemic. She’s beautiful and the one saving grace of the entire thing. She’s not a great conversationalist though. And before you bring up walking the dog as something I could do before standup, my dog literally gets irritated if I wake her up before 10 AM. She’s a Shiba Inu, you can accurately read the irritation level from the amount of side-eye she’s giving you. Here is her Instagram, my wife runs it https://www.instagram.com/yubabaandcompany/ https://www.instagram.com/yubabaandcompany/