Many are saying probably there’s nothing wrong which can’t be farther from the reality of these apps. There’s plenty wrong with dating apps. Each of these apps

Many are saying probably there’s nothing wrong which can’t be farther from the reality of these apps. There’s plenty wrong with dating apps. Each of these apps are designed to be toxic. As in the company puts an effort to make the experience toxic and sluggish. You have to spend hours uselessly. You have to get frustrated. Limits are usually designed in such a way that it hurts one sidedly. In in person dating at least to some extent you could expect “you take a step, I take a step”, but on dating apps you’ve to do everything - especially in the beginning and this pressure is almost entirely on one gender. Usually you’ve one shot and that too for a fraction of a minute of just few seconds to pitch your deck. You have to be a funny person, a stoic, a wise person, playful, mature, all probably in one message; while coming across as athletic, well groomed but not full of yourself, maybe homely, and down to earth as well in your pictures. You’ve to take the initiatives and also develop a radar to read minds. This is more gender specific than usual: if you’re lucky enough to meet people you are supposed to be a feminist who believes in equality but also a chivalrous person who opens doors and shit. Then you get some response and it is so limited that you try to trudge along with whatever you get but sooner or later realising “fuck, all this effort for such low quality interactions?” and then the disappointment and rut sets it with a fatigue where you don’t want to do it anymore but you keep doing it anymore. They do nothing for spam, harassment pretty much. Quality and veracity of profiles is deliberately left unchecked to increase the volume. Tricking and messing with users with dark patterns (in some cases even fake profiles). Among things listed ghosting is the only one I consider something that has remained almost same from the non-dating app dating (and tbh it just needs to be dealt with in one way - that there’s nothing worth doing anything there). Everything else is either new with this trend or much worse. From my personal perspective this pandemic made it worse when too much audio and text started happening without meeting in person and you started building connections (sometimes breaking) without interacting with the other person physically/in person. All this just pushes the two groups apart and slowly it spreads as the dating is moving more and more to the online world. I think limiting the number of matches (at a time), not just daily matches can be a good start - you only get more if are done with your current matches - aye or naye, but that would look bad on the PMs’ clickstream dashboards. Biggest drawback is - designed to be completely opaque in everything! And that too after having so much of your most personal data.