IMHO one part of the problem is lack of trust. When you meet people "organically" through social events there is often at least some level of "social proof" th

IMHO one part of the problem is lack of trust. When you meet people "organically" through social events there is often at least some level of "social proof" that you get due to the nature of the situation. Eg, you were invited, ergo someone thinks you're a nice enough person to invite. Or, your friend introduces you to someone, ergo your friend is happy to be associated with you. If not social proof then at least being physically present means your body language is available to interpret, so when you crack a joke it's likely to be received as such. When you first interact with someone on a dating app, you have no social proof and no body language. And the person you're talking to has probably had a lot of bad experiences on the app before. So trust is at an absolute minimum. Without trust, communication breaks down incredibly easily and quickly, and is difficult or impossible to recover.