Not everything can be solved with technology. Not every human behavior is a problem to be solved. Part of the fun of being human is all the messiness that comes

Not everything can be solved with technology. Not every human behavior is a problem to be solved. Part of the fun of being human is all the messiness that comes with having autonomy and precisely not behaving like a mindless inanimate object subject only to physical and natural laws. Trying to “solve” human behaviors is effectively equivalent to trying to dehumanize humanity (even though it isn’t fun, of course , to be on the receiving end of some of the behaviors called out as problematic in the OP, it’s part of life). The term “problem” has become so overused in the digital age, and, in fact, I think it causes engineers to ignore the reality of what they’re doing sometimes (e.g. in the case of building a dating app you’re solving the very small, already solved problem of giving people a communications platform, which is about 10% of what you are doing, the 90% of what you’re doing is making the nth dating tech company execs rich off a niche/fad by providing a slightly different flavor of stuff that already exists). It’s easy to ignore the potential negative consequences of what you’re doing when you cast it as “problem solving” which is generic enough to suppress all your alarm bells and has an inherent tendency to bias you toward thinking you’re doing good (nobody like problems right? But that’s the problem with ‘problem’—what exactly are we designating to be a problem in the first place? It’s not always cut and dry).