You ask the wrong questions. If you are considering doing something, ask yourself if it's a win for yourself and whoever you're relating with. Is it an import

You ask the wrong questions. If you are considering doing something, ask yourself if it's a win for yourself and whoever you're relating with. Is it an important relationship to you? If the answer is yes, then consider investing in it. Otherwise, don't waste your time. If they are asking for help doing something they are perfectly capable of doing themselves, you should consider passing. If you help someone who doesn't reciprocate or takes credit for your time, then you're just enabling bad behavior. Don't do it. It's not good for you, it's not good for their growth and it's not good for your company. So, if it's a win-win, just do it and with confidence that it's right for you and right for them and don't waste energy on /hesitation/trust-issues/feelings/whatever. "Helping" others in of itself doesn't make you a good person. It makes you a caretaker. Caretaking babies is appropriate and a good thing to do. Doing things for capable adults that they are prefectly capable of doing themselves isn't. It makes you a tool and people will lose respect for you. Even the person you just helped.