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In your situation I would start some kind of psychological therapy. You have a substantial amount of money so find someone competent. I started going to therapy

In your situation I would start some kind of psychological therapy. You have a substantial amount of money so find someone competent. I started going to therapy when I was 35 as well, and my therapist said that for the first-time clients this is the most common age group, as defence mechanism that were working when people were young start to break down. Based on what you wrote - sounds exactly what might be happening with you.

justbrowsingthx 5y ago
Would you elaborate on what you mean by defense mechanisms in this case? I'm guessing it's on a psychological level, but unsure against what exactly.
- scotty79 5y ago
  Against existential dread maybe? Against awareness of lack of meaning?
- kkoncevicius 5y ago
  Defence mechanism defines how a person deals with stress and anxiety [1]. For example one common defence mechanism among younger intellectual types is rationalisation [2]. A person might get asked why they don't have children and respond with something like "I don't have the money, today children are so expensive", or "I enjoy my free time too much to be bothered with children", or "there are already too many humans on the planet, I don't want to make the problem worse", etc. But in their subconscious the fact everyone around them starts having children while they don't might silently be causing anxiety. When a person gets older such rationalisations can break down, i.e. "I enjoy my free time too much" might not work when you are 35 and start to feel lonely, so the stress that was once suppressed by a defence mechanism rises up. That's just my layman's understanding of it. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism [2]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationalization_(psychology) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationalization_(psychology)
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justbrowsingthx 5y ago

Would you elaborate on what you mean by defense mechanisms in this case? I'm guessing it's on a psychological level, but unsure against what exactly.

scotty79 5y ago
Against existential dread maybe? Against awareness of lack of meaning?
kkoncevicius 5y ago
Defence mechanism defines how a person deals with stress and anxiety [1]. For example one common defence mechanism among younger intellectual types is rationalisation [2]. A person might get asked why they don't have children and respond with something like "I don't have the money, today children are so expensive", or "I enjoy my free time too much to be bothered with children", or "there are already too many humans on the planet, I don't want to make the problem worse", etc. But in their subconscious the fact everyone around them starts having children while they don't might silently be causing anxiety. When a person gets older such rationalisations can break down, i.e. "I enjoy my free time too much" might not work when you are 35 and start to feel lonely, so the stress that was once suppressed by a defence mechanism rises up. That's just my layman's understanding of it. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism [2]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationalization_(psychology) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationalization_(psychology)

newaccount2021 5y ago