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Wicked! What’s your goto when things are ambiguous? I find myself defaulting to stuff I learned from my parents when I was young. Not because I believe I was ra
by hluska 5y ago
Wicked! What’s your goto when things are ambiguous? I find myself defaulting to stuff I learned from my parents when I was young. Not because I believe I was raised perfectly or in the One True Way, but because I don’t know what to do and that’s the pattern I default to. Any ideas??
I’d dig getting get of patterns and parenting in the moment, but it’s very hard (for me).
- warrenm 5y agoWhen things get ambiguous (which I'll take to mean, "they don't get it the way you're explaining it" - please correct/direct my understanding if you meant something different), I look for how others have explained something - or I'll take my kids to someone else and ask in front of them how they'd explain it: it's as important to me that my kids know I don't know everything and am willing and want to learn as it is to be able to answer/explain things to them in the way I learned/understood it :) Sometimes, intentionally or not, we all, of course, revert to "how we learned it" - and sometimes it's because you can't find someone else to explain it, or some other way to accomplish something, or of all the ways you've seen it learned/explained, you really are using the "best" :)