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My sleep problem is not that I can't fall asleep when in bed, it's that I can't tell myself to go to the bed to sleep. I think it's some kind of chronic FOMO /

by uoaei 5y ago

My sleep problem is not that I can't fall asleep when in bed, it's that I can't tell myself to go to the bed to sleep. I think it's some kind of chronic FOMO / productivity bug, but obviously it results in lowered productivity overall because of my effectiveness when fatigued. Has anyone else addressed this issue in their own lives or know some resources tailored to this problem to learn how to better approach bedtime?

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fleddr 5y ago
I have the same problem. I sleep within 5 minutes but I won't go to sleep. I stay up. I may waste 2 or 3 extra hours doing absolutely nothing productive instead of just going to sleep. My positive interpretation is that it's introvert me. I need significant alone time and this is the only time slot where I'm not constantly bothered or interrupted. The negative interpretation is that it's plain addiction. To distractions. News. Updates. Whatever. Whatever it is, I can't solve it. I need a kick in the butt. Somebody to force me to bed.
munificent 5y ago
Yeah, I get stuck in that loop. The trick that helps is to realize that I will get more done tomorrow if I go right the fuck to sleep tonight.
darwingr 5y ago
I have this too. Someone had a good list of things to be doing to optimize your environment. They definitely help. I would add: 1. putting on pyjamas at a certain time every day (e.g. 9:30 pm). 2. not eating anything after 8-9 pm, only drinking water. 3. have other activities like reading to do in the 1-2 hours before bed. 4. no stimulants in the afternoon. No chocolate in the evening. (easy to ignore but makes a big difference). The biggest psychological bad-habit I had to get over was ignoring my body/mind when I felt tired. If that means falling asleep in weird places, slightly earlier than expected or when there was still something I felt I needed to do, then just accept defeat for that day and let sleep take you over. Allowing my ego to accept defeat at the end of every day, to let sleep be the victor, that is the best way I can frame it for myself. In the end we're creatures that need sleep and to deny my own biology in that regard will lead to my own undoing.

by uoaei 5y ago

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fleddr 5y ago

I have the same problem. I sleep within 5 minutes but I won't go to sleep. I stay up. I may waste 2 or 3 extra hours doing absolutely nothing productive instead of just going to sleep. My positive interpretation is that it's introvert me. I need significant alone time and this is the only time slot where I'm not constantly bothered or interrupted. The negative interpretation is that it's plain addiction. To distractions. News. Updates. Whatever. Whatever it is, I can't solve it. I need a kick in the butt. Somebody to force me to bed.

munificent 5y ago

Yeah, I get stuck in that loop. The trick that helps is to realize that I will get more done tomorrow if I go right the fuck to sleep tonight.

darwingr 5y ago

I have this too. Someone had a good list of things to be doing to optimize your environment. They definitely help. I would add: 1. putting on pyjamas at a certain time every day (e.g. 9:30 pm). 2. not eating anything after 8-9 pm, only drinking water. 3. have other activities like reading to do in the 1-2 hours before bed. 4. no stimulants in the afternoon. No chocolate in the evening. (easy to ignore but makes a big difference). The biggest psychological bad-habit I had to get over was ignoring my body/mind when I felt tired. If that means falling asleep in weird places, slightly earlier than expected or when there was still something I felt I needed to do, then just accept defeat for that day and let sleep take you over. Allowing my ego to accept defeat at the end of every day, to let sleep be the victor, that is the best way I can frame it for myself. In the end we're creatures that need sleep and to deny my own biology in that regard will lead to my own undoing.