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I'm a Dad who wants to improve his parenting, I'll give it a look and let you know! I will say that I was initially a bit confused by the web page; it took me

I'm a Dad who wants to improve his parenting, I'll give it a look and let you know! I will say that I was initially a bit confused by the web page; it took me a minute of looking around for a register/login link, for sample guides, or for the community boards... before I realized that the web page is just a brochure for the mobile apps and a place to link your 'gram. I prefer to consume long-form content on my PC rather than my phone, so that was a bit of a disappointment. On downloading the Android app, I was greeted with this error message: https://i.imgur.com/gi0MfZz.png https://i.imgur.com/gi0MfZz.png Hopefully that's just HN's Dad hug of doom (I'm on solid wifi and have a great network connection; it's almost certainly not on my end as the message implies). Starting to page through the app now; looks like you have lots of content! I'll let you know when I have more time to really dig into a few articles and the features. Another place I go to for Dadditude-like conversations is https://www.reddit.com/r/daddit https://www.reddit.com/r/daddit. We do have a very limited policy for self-promotion, see https://www.reddit.com/r/daddit/wiki/blogs https://www.reddit.com/r/daddit/wiki/blogs for details (or message the mods), in particular self-promotion should be <<10% of your content. But if you are already a redditor who wants to help fathers you're probably already there, encouraging and commiserating with us over people who call dads parenting 'babysitting', cleaning up the messes of our kids, and trying to be better dads... PS: I'll echo and slightly disagree with the sibling commenter who was distracted by the first paragraph of your pitch: "Being a dad is a long, emotional, draining, and lonely journey. Through our research we learned that dads want to improve their parenting but are too shy to ask for help, and are tired of reading content online written for mums. We set out to fix that and create a platform that would help dads feel seen, validated, and supported." Wow, that's a depressing framing to everything that follows. Try something more positive, and be willing to qualify it with some weasel words where you have to: Being a Dad should be an rewarding, amazing, fulfilling, awesome journey, that has commensurately high challenges and requirements, and it can sometimes feel draining or lonely. Asking for help is hard, and it's difficult to find quality, precise help when you do ask. We want to help dads be the best Dads they can be, recognize the work they're putting in, and support them in the important role they have in their families. Good luck!

howmayiannoyyou 5y ago
Hi Dad. Dad here. Here's _general_ guidelines for being a competent Dad: Remember SOS: S = Self-awareness. You need a sense of your own insecurities, biases and an awareness of your feelings. O = Objectivity. With that self-awareness hopefully comes objectivity. The ability to look at the world from your child's perspective and not in a manner governed by your own ambitions, dreams, fears and hopes. S = Selflessness. This can be the grueling part. Sacrificing other priorities (sleep, work, wind down time, personal interests) to support your child in their interests, with their difficulties, and often to expose them to different activities and ideas so they can identify what is right for them. My kids are older now, but I still run down this list frequently in my mind as a way of ensuring I am preparing the kids for life in age appropriate and healthy ways.
- pbarondadditude 5y ago
  Thanks for sharing. Love this. > and not in a manner governed by your own ambitions, dreams, fears and hopes. and emotions, personal childhood trauma, stress... We have some great content on "Parenting Blindspots".
pbarondadditude 5y ago
Error message: Eeeek. Sorry for the less than optimal first experience. It seems fine on my end though. Please consider visiting a bit later? Looking fwd to your additional feedback. r/daddit: I'm a long time lurker and I'm so grateful for this resource. Sounds like you're quite involved there. Thank you! I've wondered how I could introduce Dadditude there but I think I prefer to wait until the offering is more differentiated. Unless you think there is a way to do it now. Thank you for the rephrasing suggestions, that is so helpful and I'll definitely incorporate some of this next time I pitch. I love the concept of weasel words (as a non-native speaker).

howmayiannoyyou 5y ago

Hi Dad. Dad here. Here's _general_ guidelines for being a competent Dad: Remember SOS: S = Self-awareness. You need a sense of your own insecurities, biases and an awareness of your feelings. O = Objectivity. With that self-awareness hopefully comes objectivity. The ability to look at the world from your child's perspective and not in a manner governed by your own ambitions, dreams, fears and hopes. S = Selflessness. This can be the grueling part. Sacrificing other priorities (sleep, work, wind down time, personal interests) to support your child in their interests, with their difficulties, and often to expose them to different activities and ideas so they can identify what is right for them. My kids are older now, but I still run down this list frequently in my mind as a way of ensuring I am preparing the kids for life in age appropriate and healthy ways.

pbarondadditude 5y ago
Thanks for sharing. Love this. > and not in a manner governed by your own ambitions, dreams, fears and hopes. and emotions, personal childhood trauma, stress... We have some great content on "Parenting Blindspots".

pbarondadditude 5y ago

Error message: Eeeek. Sorry for the less than optimal first experience. It seems fine on my end though. Please consider visiting a bit later? Looking fwd to your additional feedback. r/daddit: I'm a long time lurker and I'm so grateful for this resource. Sounds like you're quite involved there. Thank you! I've wondered how I could introduce Dadditude there but I think I prefer to wait until the offering is more differentiated. Unless you think there is a way to do it now. Thank you for the rephrasing suggestions, that is so helpful and I'll definitely incorporate some of this next time I pitch. I love the concept of weasel words (as a non-native speaker).