You’ve simply repeated the contradiction. We know that slurs are meant to denigrate. We not only don’t know that appropriation is intended to do harm. For any

You’ve simply repeated the contradiction. We know that slurs are meant to denigrate. We not only don’t know that appropriation is intended to do harm. For any given claim of appropriation, we don’t even know that it does harm, nor that members of the group perceive it that way in general. There really is no comparison at all, and it seems like your argument is that they are similar in that people disagree about them, which is not a meaningful point.