This is a good way put it, and it could be a useful goal for the individual to aim to speak as comfortably sober as under the influence of alcohol. However, it

This is a good way put it, and it could be a useful goal for the individual to aim to speak as comfortably sober as under the influence of alcohol. However, it's very likely that most people don't act like this, or even know that this is a goal to work toward. As an individual, I can act (or aim to act) unreservedly sober, but the other people I want to know better might not; and it takes more than one to carry a conversation. It's possible to only choose friends who are comfortable opening up without alcohol (I believe this represents most of my current social circle, though this was coincidental versus by design), but I believe I would have missed out on meaningful friendships in the past if I filtered out potential friends based on this criteria.