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The idea that alcohol helps you speak unreservedly when you otherwise wouldn't is one of ideas that bothers me the most. If you wouldn't say it unless you were
by seabird 5y ago
The idea that alcohol helps you speak unreservedly when you otherwise wouldn't is one of ideas that bothers me the most. If you wouldn't say it unless you were drinking, it's either better left unsaid or something you should be training yourself to become comfortable (or at least capable) of talking about sober. Just because society at large promotes alcohol as an acceptable way to paper over not developing these skills doesn't mean it's better off for it.
- openknot 5y agoThis is a good way put it, and it could be a useful goal for the individual to aim to speak as comfortably sober as under the influence of alcohol. However, it's very likely that most people don't act like this, or even know that this is a goal to work toward. As an individual, I can act (or aim to act) unreservedly sober, but the other people I want to know better might not; and it takes more than one to carry a conversation. It's possible to only choose friends who are comfortable opening up without alcohol (I believe this represents most of my current social circle, though this was coincidental versus by design), but I believe I would have missed out on meaningful friendships in the past if I filtered out potential friends based on this criteria.
- TheCoelacanth 5y agoIt's not only about whether you personally are comfortable talking about something. It's also about whether the people you are talking to are comfortable with it.