I think hackernews is the wrong audience to ask this question. Reading all the comments I didn’t see any other “homesteaders” or those that had tried it. You m

I think hackernews is the wrong audience to ask this question. Reading all the comments I didn’t see any other “homesteaders” or those that had tried it. You might try looking into the “back to the land” movements from the 70s. They reduced the soul crushing labor, kept socializing, and saved money by setting up communes. However overall, it seems like your current situation is not meeting your expectations financially and socially. If you write down what you expected and what you got, maybe you can see where your assumptions were invalid and can decide to adjust your plan from there.