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I read a book a while back called Tribal Leadership that calls out exactly the problems you are referring to. One is that the manager has to say the same thin
by oceanplexian 5y ago
I read a book a while back called Tribal Leadership that calls out exactly the problems you are referring to.
One is that the manager has to say the same thing to multiple reports, which simply isn’t scalable. Second the person at the other end of the 1:1 feels commoditized, and third, people start to spot inconsistencies (intentional or not) between what the manager is telling different reports, which damages their credibility. Their solution is to form triads (three person meetings).
- PaulHoule 5y agoYou're right also that people can compare notes and find small inconsistencies from somebody honest and blow that up into believing somebody is totally dishonest.
- worldvoyageur 5y ago"If you give me six lines written by the hand of the most honest of men, I will find something in them which will hang him.” ― Cardinal Richelieu
- jldugger 5y agoI'm just gonna put this out there: none of this sounds like a problem if you don't lie to your reports.
- PaulHoule 5y ago"Lie" is an accusation that I try pretty hard not to use. (Some people are quick to say "you lied to me" as soon as they discover a mismatch between what was said and what the reality is, I try to save that for when it's really clear that deliberate deception is going on.) Frequently people tell untruths because they really don't know the truth or are confused. Also people who hear bits and pieces of a story might come to the conclusion that deception is going on when actually their imagination is getting the better of them. Also information changes over time. You might tell reports A and B that X is the case, then you talk to C who educates you that X is not the case and really Y is the case, then you talk to D and E and tell them that Y is the case. A and B might never get updated or get updated after some time delay in which they might compare notes with D or E and think there is a problem. Even if you don't lie you are going to pay for the sins of other people who lie who hear stories that don't add up and think you are lying.