What were you doing in your 20s? You should have been getting girls, engaged, married if you want that kind of life. It doesn’t usually happen over night. Re

What were you doing in your 20s? You should have been getting girls, engaged, married if you want that kind of life. It doesn’t usually happen over night. Remember how people will see you. A 30-something guy, programmer. How fit are you? Socially competent? Are you reasonably successful? Do you have skills and hobbies outside of work? Skiing, martial arts, scuba, sailing, climbing, lifting, whatever. A girl will look at you and likely have some expectation of where you should be at your age. Hint- it should look like you haven’t been wasting your life. Savings, career, house, decent car, well spoken, fit, etc. Remember, the more attractive/ younger, the more options she has. How do you stack up against the competition? Do you have any female friends? If not, get some. It’ll be a real eye opener seeing the world through her eyes. A world where she gets hit on constantly and lied to to get into her pants almost as much. It will at least teach you what not to say and do.