I am a dev - but it's not a dev problem really, more a mid-life crisis problem. I went through a rough patch myself during my mid-thirties... All I can say - ev

I am a dev - but it's not a dev problem really, more a mid-life crisis problem. I went through a rough patch myself during my mid-thirties... All I can say - even if you don't want to hear it - it's a you problem. If you are not pleased with the crowed you meet at the hobbies you enjoy, you may have to find something else... But well women in their 30s-40s aren't looking as lively - same with yourself, but honestly to me it felt like man have a lot harder time to become self aware of the fact they aren't what a 25 year old is looking for either... Btw younger you could have gone up and ask if you could join for a drink... We always had neighbours at parties... Much better then cops, also how I learned I am way to fucking old for that shit. (Way out for me was finding new hobbies I enjoy - a girlfriend, giving up on weed and drinking 99%, and going freelance and being very selective with the work I do and who I do it for/with, also I enjoy hanging out with old friends and their kids every once in a while)