Things that helped me: - small steps - accept failures, don't let them stop you. My first "solo-traveller" holiday was a disaster, but the next four were grea

Things that helped me: - small steps - accept failures, don't let them stop you. My first "solo-traveller" holiday was a disaster, but the next four were great - be open (i.e. say "yes" to things even if you don't really feel like it - being with people is IMO well worth it) - life throws spanners in the works - but also golden opportunities - help others. I enjoy baking and cooking, I might meet friends and bring some home-made treats along. Or offer to help them in DIY. - be pro-active. e.g. ask if anyone fancies a walk/visit to a local attraction. Arrange a trip somewhere. Your circles may start small (e.g. with work colleagues) however make them interesting and it can grow. - meetup.com has been helpful, however do something you'd enjoy _anyway_ - if you meet someone (friends or romantically) that's a bonus This isn't a panacea, I'm personally struggling. However when I look at the good things I _do_ have, this is how I have them.