Honestly I can very understand the situation. To be honest I don't have a solution for you. But let me comment on some points: - Is travel really the solution?

Honestly I can very understand the situation. To be honest I don't have a solution for you. But let me comment on some points: - Is travel really the solution? I mean isn't it not just walking away from you problems. Yeah I know myself some really great guys who went to Thailand or Philippines and had much more success with women there. One found his wife. Anyway that might be the solution. - Regarding the age. According to a well known formula you can date people 1/2(your age) + 7. So it is nothing that special dating someone in their 20s if you are in your 30s. - Regarding dance: Maybe you went to the wrong places. What you describe is not always the case. - Regarding the Job: I once did had a very very exciting job with a lot of coding involved. Everyone was working a lot here. Changing the job kind of helped (low stress, nice people). It's much more about your team then the actual tasks in my opinion. Also jobs with a lot of meetings in big companies might be the hell for some of us, but might be a blessing for others since you often have to communicate much more. If you found a solution. Please let me know ; )