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I've read your comment and acknowledge it. I respectfully disagree that this was a personal attack. If you'd be so kind as to point out how it was, then I'd lo

• dang 5y ago
  "You sound like a person...", followed by pejoratives, is crossing into personal attack. So is using canned personal lines like "get over yourself". So, arguably, is "you're your own worst enemy". So is "you'll still be the same ineffective blocked off 'you'". So, arguably, is "Work on yourself more". I realize that you meant well but repeatedly putting someone down like this is not the way to help them on the internet. Maybe if you were talking in person and had already established a good personal connection, it would be robust enough to withstand that sort of language. On the internet, though (and maybe not only on the internet), that's not the case. People using 'tough love' language generally feel that it's justified because their intentions are good, but you can't know that unless you have a lot of information about how it's landing with the other person, and by default, it probably isn't going to land well at all.