Hey man, I admire your willingness to ask for help here, that takes courage. I hear you on the difficulty of isolation and feeling disconnected, it’s tough. Yo

Hey man, I admire your willingness to ask for help here, that takes courage. I hear you on the difficulty of isolation and feeling disconnected, it’s tough. You’re definitely not alone there, I know lots of guys in the same boat. I’ve been where you are. I’m also an engineer in my 30s. I’ve been frustrated, apathetic, and lonely too. But most days I don’t feel like that anymore. I turned it around for myself, I know you can too. You can definitely get reenergized and get back to the fun and connected life you had in college. It’ll take some work, but from your post my impression is that you’re pretty good at learning new skills. A lot of people have made great suggestions on how to meet people. Save those for a month from now. The key thing in my experience is getting your energy up. If you’re low energy when you meet someone new, neither of you is going to have much fun and it won’t lead anywhere. Here’s how to get your energy up: 1. Exercise every day - if you’ve forgotten where to start, walk/run a mile and do 25 pushups. Adjust based on your current fitness level. Keep it simple. 2. Drink 64oz of water every day. No, really, this is important. 3. Get outside first thing in the morning for 10 minutes to get natural light - this can be when you get your exercise or it can just be to sit and drink a cup of coffee. That’s it. Start with those three. You got this - friends, fun, connection and a fulfilling life are closer than you think.