Not the answer but a good idea spinner: sports. I met a ton of people doing cycling group rides, and first went for a MTB ride as a non date with my now wife. W

Not the answer but a good idea spinner: sports. I met a ton of people doing cycling group rides, and first went for a MTB ride as a non date with my now wife. We were on distant leaves of a social tree but that was a great way to spend time one on one and just have fun. And it’s healthy and can be competitive and gets you out of the headspace of “only know software.”