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You have to learn to like yourself before others will though, having a deep sense of self loathing, even self consciously, will put people off of you, you emana
by Aloha 5y ago
You have to learn to like yourself before others will though, having a deep sense of self loathing, even self consciously, will put people off of you, you emanate a deep proverbial psychological stink - and it turns people away.
- bawolff 5y agoI think that's true, its just not helpful advice. Simply "chosing" to be happy is like simply "chosing" to be a milioniare.
- darkerside 5y agoYou can choose to work and save and get a little richer every day. The mentality you describe is actually the most dangerous hurdle I found on the path to happiness.
- Aloha 5y agoIt wont make you any happier, but its the first step down that road.
- darkerside 5y agoThis. Sorry, I can't give the secret to happiness, but I can tell you to stop looking in places where you won't find it. One of those places is expecting others to give it to you when you have none to give back.
- zepto 5y agoThat might be a step further than is necessary. I don’t think you have to like yourself, and it’s much easier to like yourself if someone else likes you first. However, I do agree that you need to get past self-loathing to at least self-acceptance of some kind. Mostly because self-loathing means putting your attention on yourself, and that is what makes it hard to connect with other people. It’s ok to not have a high opinion of yourself as long as you don’t place too much importance on it, and are on with yourself.