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Some ideas that may or may not pan out: - Get a pet. - Volunteer for a non-profit organization. - Go to church. - Visit and talk frequently with family memb

Some ideas that may or may not pan out: - Get a pet. - Volunteer for a non-profit organization. - Go to church. - Visit and talk frequently with family members. - Join an online dating service. - Talk with or visit your neighbors as frequently as feasible. - Every time you go out shopping, make a point of engaging in light conversation with people who work where you shop. - Take music lessons at a music store. Make a point of engaging in light conversation with anyone you see there. - Take night courses at a college. Any subject. Make a point of engaging in light conversation with anyone in your classes. Suggest that you study together. What you need are random collisions with other people. More random collisions means a higher probability of meeting someone you get along well with.

larrymyers 5y ago
Getting a pet is actually a pretty great idea. There's something awesome about having a non-judgemental companion who is always pretty excited to see you and values your attention. My cats keep us sane with our new normal of always being home, because remote work.
wombatpm 5y ago
Get a pet. A dog is a wonderful way to meet new people. And don’t be so quick to dismiss the older ladies. They might have daughters, sisters, or friends who are single in your age bracket.
burner-acc-123 5y ago
dont do these things, you dont need to just start adding crap to your schedule to make up for your loneliness. just sit with it and understand it before you pull the trigger on church or volunteering. just sit with it, understand it, be silent and contemplative. >What you need are random collisions with other people. More random collisions means a higher probability of meeting someone you get along well with. typical programmer mindset, turning everything into abstraction, using his spacial/math abilities to obscure the nature of the modern world, which is just a detached, technocratic hell. making complex models for problems does not get you closer to the solution on it's own
shetill 5y ago
Not to be a bummer but: - don't get a pet thinking it's all fun and games. It' a huge responsibility and you have to take care of them constantly. Even going on holiday becomes a lot more difficult because you have to find someone to take care of it and trust that person and possibly pay them which adds on the whole holiday cost. - go church - if you are religious maybe? What would you do there as an atheist? - Talk to neighbours? Must be an American thing here in London people actively avoid one another. I've barely ever spoken to neighbour and that's if I get stuck in lift with them. - engaging in casual conversation with people who work there... as someone who did this job long time ago I can tell you I couldn't care less people talking to me, you are just an obstacle to finishing my shift. - random collisions with people rarely lead to friendships you need organised regular events where you meet the same people and eventually befriend.

larrymyers 5y ago

Getting a pet is actually a pretty great idea. There's something awesome about having a non-judgemental companion who is always pretty excited to see you and values your attention. My cats keep us sane with our new normal of always being home, because remote work.

wombatpm 5y ago

Get a pet. A dog is a wonderful way to meet new people. And don’t be so quick to dismiss the older ladies. They might have daughters, sisters, or friends who are single in your age bracket.

burner-acc-123 5y ago

dont do these things, you dont need to just start adding crap to your schedule to make up for your loneliness. just sit with it and understand it before you pull the trigger on church or volunteering. just sit with it, understand it, be silent and contemplative. >What you need are random collisions with other people. More random collisions means a higher probability of meeting someone you get along well with. typical programmer mindset, turning everything into abstraction, using his spacial/math abilities to obscure the nature of the modern world, which is just a detached, technocratic hell. making complex models for problems does not get you closer to the solution on it's own

shetill 5y ago

Not to be a bummer but: - don't get a pet thinking it's all fun and games. It' a huge responsibility and you have to take care of them constantly. Even going on holiday becomes a lot more difficult because you have to find someone to take care of it and trust that person and possibly pay them which adds on the whole holiday cost. - go church - if you are religious maybe? What would you do there as an atheist? - Talk to neighbours? Must be an American thing here in London people actively avoid one another. I've barely ever spoken to neighbour and that's if I get stuck in lift with them. - engaging in casual conversation with people who work there... as someone who did this job long time ago I can tell you I couldn't care less people talking to me, you are just an obstacle to finishing my shift. - random collisions with people rarely lead to friendships you need organised regular events where you meet the same people and eventually befriend.