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In some ways this has been tried as a social app many times, but like any network, it is difficult to get adoption. The thing is, you probably don't want to me
by pedalpete 5y ago
In some ways this has been tried as a social app many times, but like any network, it is difficult to get adoption.
The thing is, you probably don't want to meet a bunch of other people who are just looking to meet other interesting people.
How do I meet people?
#1 - I talk to people in line at the coffee shop mostly, but also randomly at other places. I tend to go in waves with this, and Covid has definitely made it more challenging with masks and distance and all, but I've met some very interesting people just by striking up random conversations.
#2 - Define what you mean by "interesting". I met some of my closest friends when I got into open-water swimming and mountain biking. I also sometimes take my slackline to the local park and play around. I didn't do it to be social, but kinda hoped that people would be interested and join in. This hasn't happened as I expected.
#3 - As mentioned, meetups can also be an interesting place to meet people, but don't just go for the work related stuff. Pick something that would not usually be on your radar. Go in a somebody there to learn. People love to teach others about their hobbies. Though I've met a few interesting people at meetups, I don't think there is anybody I would consider a close friend. But I do meet interesting people when I was going to meetups.
#4 - Be interesting. What other things outside of work interest you? I used to be much better at this than I currently am. As I approach 50, I find that I've got my interests, and am not as broad as I used to be. Are you interested in the environment? How active are you in environmental activism? Interest in the arts? Is there a way you can become more active in that community? How about a class? My co-founder and I almost signed up for a local jewelry making course because we needed to learn how to do metalwork. But there was a part of me that just got excited about learning a completely new thing, and meeting the people that were drawn to that activity.
#5 - Connect with a connector. In chatting to people regularly, I met the owner of my local coffee shop. He knows everyone in the neighbourhood, and when he is at the shop and not working, he is regularly introducing me to other people he thinks I may have a connection with. I met a very interesting guy through that connection, and we have a lot of common interests.
I think the key thing is to be out there doing, but don't be needy. Enjoy the act of finding interesting things, and you'll find interesting people will be drawn to you.