I agree. The important thing for me was my parents expressing their sadness about what they were about to do. They didn't like to do it but viewed it as right t

I agree. The important thing for me was my parents expressing their sadness about what they were about to do. They didn't like to do it but viewed it as right thing to do. They never did it out of anger. It's not "abuse" then because the child understands why what is happening to them is happening.