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I'm surprised at how many people here seem to take this personally. A few comments who were."against" this notion made some good points, just to taint the argum
by spoiler 5y ago
I'm surprised at how many people here seem to take this personally. A few comments who were."against" this notion made some good points, just to taint the argument with their own insecurities about gender.
Everyone needs to understand that humans aren't "binary" in most things. Sure, some biological binarities exist, as do some social ones, but they're exceptions not rules.
I think the raise of modern gender fluidity comes as a backlash of people being forced into two binary groups.
Let's keep to simple examples (alas, I await some misguided binarist soul to tell me how the example is too simple, only to be caught in their own web of oversimplification). All men must wear blue and leather. All women must wear silky dresses.
What if you're uncomfortable in leather? What if you like yellow? You change what you wear and you're suddenly ridiculed for not being a man. So what are you?
What if you don't like silk? You're a mechanic and it gets stuck on everything, it easily gets dirty. You trip on it all the time. Even if you're not a mechanic, maybe you hate pink and like green. Why oh why can't you wear green?
Take this sitations and apply them to:
- jobs
- clothes
- hobbies
- behaviours
- interests
- who you can be attracted to
And you have gender norms. Current/modern gender norms are very tightly restricted. Most people don't realise this, because gender norms are both imprinted on us by parents and society, but also because they are stereotypes. Edit: And because of this "programming head start" in childhood, a lot of people fall into this without thinking or realising. People who didn't have this programming don't have a path to follow, and they cut their own path. Sometimes it ends on the same masculine or feminine path as others of their sex, but sometimes it's a unique one.
One could argue that these binary stereotypes have had an advantage during more primitive lifestyles. But they're losing their benefits, and I'd argue they're holding society back because of these polarising views.
I don't want to get political, but religions are making this worse. I always believed religions to be tools, both personal and societal, that helped humanity thrive. However, they've become dull, and they need to be reshaped if they want to spiritually guide society forward, instead of hold it back.