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I think he does make some assumptions that you're aware of what he's talking about, which is OK. Maybe because he knows his audience well, and he might have be
by libertine 5y ago
I think he does make some assumptions that you're aware of what he's talking about, which is OK.
Maybe because he knows his audience well, and he might have been writing about this subject for quite some time, so he doesn't have to break it down on every post - which if you look at them, they're all short format.
The point that I got from his post it that: just like bad habits, bad thinking patterns are also learned behaviors.
And the bad/good part is defined by the outcomes, you can have good habits/good thinking patterns.
In case of stress inducing thinking patterns, if we're aware of them, we can make an effort - because it's an effort indeed - to try and break that bad habit and reframe it.
Even if you think it's bullshit, you try it, because the current pattern isn't helping you at all. And then maybe, just maybe, you might start to see things in a different light and your stress levels decrease.
>Not being stressed out?
That's the tricky part - a lot of anxiety inducing thoughts are actually extremely reasonable to be a cause for stress. You can't just stop being stressed out if you think you're not well prepared for a meeting, because in some meeting you had in the past some people threw curved balls at you that you weren't expecting.
Recognizing this is a good first step, like, you're not broken or stupid to be stressed in a stressful situation.
Another way to reframe it could be: if I don't know the answers, it's OK because it's impossible to know everything and it's completely reasonable to say: "I don't know, but I'll look into it and get back to you about this."