I don't believe the message here is to ignore the lesson, but to consider rethinking your responses if your responses are leaving you less than fulfilled. Over

I don't believe the message here is to ignore the lesson, but to consider rethinking your responses if your responses are leaving you less than fulfilled. Over time, people develop rote strategies in response to lessons learned. We forget there's more than one way to tackle things. This is, ultimately, where "choice" inserts itself in life.