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Maybe I am too illiterate for this kind of blogpost but I simply don't get it. What's the point of it? Not being stressed out?

butwhywhyoh 5y ago
You're not the only one, trust me. Came away with zero value after reading it twice.
- Mandatum 5y ago
  I don’t understand why this is getting upvotes. Maybe I’m an idiot?
cecilpl2 5y ago
Take a step back from your immediate experience. Observe your behavior, your reactions, your emotions. Realize that all of those are programmed, and that you can (with some effort) rewrite the programming to better suit you.
- klipt 5y ago
  In a word, mindfulness.
erikerikson 5y ago
I found it to be about repeated patterns that we find to have suboptimal outcomes. It is noting that we should notice what patterns (distributed between ourselves and our environment, inclusive of people) we engage in and evaluate whether we like them or would prefer them to be altered. When we would, it suggests, we should.
mromanuk 5y ago
He is talking about “rule governed behavior”, which are “stories” that we tell ourselves on how we should behave. Seth is asking to challenge those rules, specially those that are not useful for us. As a first step, you can try to be aware of your own rules
libertine 5y ago
I think he does make some assumptions that you're aware of what he's talking about, which is OK. Maybe because he knows his audience well, and he might have been writing about this subject for quite some time, so he doesn't have to break it down on every post - which if you look at them, they're all short format. The point that I got from his post it that: just like bad habits, bad thinking patterns are also learned behaviors. And the bad/good part is defined by the outcomes, you can have good habits/good thinking patterns. In case of stress inducing thinking patterns, if we're aware of them, we can make an effort - because it's an effort indeed - to try and break that bad habit and reframe it. Even if you think it's bullshit, you try it, because the current pattern isn't helping you at all. And then maybe, just maybe, you might start to see things in a different light and your stress levels decrease. >Not being stressed out? That's the tricky part - a lot of anxiety inducing thoughts are actually extremely reasonable to be a cause for stress. You can't just stop being stressed out if you think you're not well prepared for a meeting, because in some meeting you had in the past some people threw curved balls at you that you weren't expecting. Recognizing this is a good first step, like, you're not broken or stupid to be stressed in a stressful situation. Another way to reframe it could be: if I don't know the answers, it's OK because it's impossible to know everything and it's completely reasonable to say: "I don't know, but I'll look into it and get back to you about this."

butwhywhyoh 5y ago

You're not the only one, trust me. Came away with zero value after reading it twice.

Mandatum 5y ago
I don’t understand why this is getting upvotes. Maybe I’m an idiot?

cecilpl2 5y ago

Take a step back from your immediate experience. Observe your behavior, your reactions, your emotions. Realize that all of those are programmed, and that you can (with some effort) rewrite the programming to better suit you.

klipt 5y ago
In a word, mindfulness.

erikerikson 5y ago

I found it to be about repeated patterns that we find to have suboptimal outcomes. It is noting that we should notice what patterns (distributed between ourselves and our environment, inclusive of people) we engage in and evaluate whether we like them or would prefer them to be altered. When we would, it suggests, we should.

mromanuk 5y ago

He is talking about “rule governed behavior”, which are “stories” that we tell ourselves on how we should behave. Seth is asking to challenge those rules, specially those that are not useful for us. As a first step, you can try to be aware of your own rules

libertine 5y ago

I think he does make some assumptions that you're aware of what he's talking about, which is OK. Maybe because he knows his audience well, and he might have been writing about this subject for quite some time, so he doesn't have to break it down on every post - which if you look at them, they're all short format. The point that I got from his post it that: just like bad habits, bad thinking patterns are also learned behaviors. And the bad/good part is defined by the outcomes, you can have good habits/good thinking patterns. In case of stress inducing thinking patterns, if we're aware of them, we can make an effort - because it's an effort indeed - to try and break that bad habit and reframe it. Even if you think it's bullshit, you try it, because the current pattern isn't helping you at all. And then maybe, just maybe, you might start to see things in a different light and your stress levels decrease. >Not being stressed out? That's the tricky part - a lot of anxiety inducing thoughts are actually extremely reasonable to be a cause for stress. You can't just stop being stressed out if you think you're not well prepared for a meeting, because in some meeting you had in the past some people threw curved balls at you that you weren't expecting. Recognizing this is a good first step, like, you're not broken or stupid to be stressed in a stressful situation. Another way to reframe it could be: if I don't know the answers, it's OK because it's impossible to know everything and it's completely reasonable to say: "I don't know, but I'll look into it and get back to you about this."