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> Do you get stressed about all the preparations of showing up at the airport with everything you need? Yes, quite a lot. > If the [scripts] you have are work

> Do you get stressed about all the preparations of showing up at the airport with everything you need? Yes, quite a lot. > If the [scripts] you have are working for you, you’ve discovered a reliable way to succeed and find satisfaction as you do. But if they’re not, it might pay to spend the energy to approach the next cycle, ‘as if’. I don't know, does "the prospect of vacation is anxiety-inducing" count as "works for me"? > What if you could leave the script behind, just this one time? [...] Rewrite the script, rewrite the outcome. Not sure if "you miss your flight" is the outcome I'm looking for... Point being, some of these "scripts" are the result of lessons learned. Possibly quite painful ones. "Ignore that for once" is both good and terrible advice. But yes, it probably pays to think about these ingrained responses from time to time.

madrox 5y ago
I don't believe the message here is to ignore the lesson, but to consider rethinking your responses if your responses are leaving you less than fulfilled. Over time, people develop rote strategies in response to lessons learned. We forget there's more than one way to tackle things. This is, ultimately, where "choice" inserts itself in life.
erikerikson 5y ago
Perhaps flying isn't necessary for a satisfying and restorative vacation. Rewriting the script of what you think of when you consider vacation could be part of it. If you will continue flying, consider whether how you think of flying leads to the negative emotional experiences you may associate with it. For many things our minds race ahead to what they "just mean" but if that is giving you heartburn, perhaps it's worth reconfiguring your formulation of the consideration. Said differently, the solutions you've developed assume the frame under which the problem was originally experienced. I don't expect ignoring the solutions is the advice so much as rethinking your model of the circumstance in the first place.

madrox 5y ago

I don't believe the message here is to ignore the lesson, but to consider rethinking your responses if your responses are leaving you less than fulfilled. Over time, people develop rote strategies in response to lessons learned. We forget there's more than one way to tackle things. This is, ultimately, where "choice" inserts itself in life.

erikerikson 5y ago

Perhaps flying isn't necessary for a satisfying and restorative vacation. Rewriting the script of what you think of when you consider vacation could be part of it. If you will continue flying, consider whether how you think of flying leads to the negative emotional experiences you may associate with it. For many things our minds race ahead to what they "just mean" but if that is giving you heartburn, perhaps it's worth reconfiguring your formulation of the consideration. Said differently, the solutions you've developed assume the frame under which the problem was originally experienced. I don't expect ignoring the solutions is the advice so much as rethinking your model of the circumstance in the first place.