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This applies well to me. However, I was well into adulthood and several ruts before I realized I have an additional weakness: I'm (almost always) unable to chan
by gspr 5y ago
This applies well to me. However, I was well into adulthood and several ruts before I realized I have an additional weakness: I'm (almost always) unable to change perspective without the help of others.
I don't mean that I need to tell others that I'm in a rut and need perspective change. I need the others – friends and colleagues – to help anchor my perspective to reality (or their reality) by simple having normal interactions with them.
Needless to say, the pandemic has made this hard. And I'm afraid that the older I get, the less I can rely on this very good mechanism I have for perspective change. Any advice?
(A therapist suggested I train my own ability to reality-anchor. It worked a tiny bit, but given enough time I always start doubting my own anchoring, and need peers to reanchor me. I know their view isn't canon either, but it feels objective to me. Mine feels shaky.)
- vasco 5y agoFor a self-induced perspective change that may not work for everyone: buy a war-time photography book, the ones with the really nasty gore, and have a two minute look at some of the pictures in the pages. It's likely you'll physically want to throw up from just looking at the images, and this bodily reaction is for me one of the "deepest" ways of my body physically understanding how good I have it. I haven't had to do this in the last 5 years, and only did this 3 times total. This can seem like it's wrong, and maybe it is, but it worked for me so maybe it'll work for you. There's a side benefit to this, I've become more anti-war, which I think is a good quality to have.