Well maybe to you "managed database server" feels more reassuring which is fine, but to me I run my business off SQLite which I've found insanely simple to set

Well maybe to you "managed database server" feels more reassuring which is fine, but to me I run my business off SQLite which I've found insanely simple to set up and maintain, so that is more reassuring to me. And just an aside, I think if you looked into it a bit you'd probably find that while there is a lot of nuance to database fine tuning, you can get most of that without needing to be an expert.