I have kids and need a raise each year to afford to buy them the things they need while still having a hope of retiring one day. "The new job might seem great

I have kids and need a raise each year to afford to buy them the things they need while still having a hope of retiring one day. "The new job might seem great at first, then turn out to be a nightmare a couple of months in" This is pretty much most of my jobs. The current one is probably the nicest I have had in a long time but I still need a raise as the thought of working until 65 just to be old and then die fills me with existential dread.