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Those talks at FailCon does sound like a humble brag. But some of the talks maybe came from a place to tell people that things do get better after hurting like
by creakingstairs 5y ago
Those talks at FailCon does sound like a humble brag. But some of the talks maybe came from a place to tell people that things do get better after hurting like hell.
I’ve had a failure where I honestly thought that my life was an unrecoverable failure and should end my life. (Not meeting toxic expectations set by family)
Looking back, I see how inconsequential that was, and I’m almost glad that happened. If I met my old self, I’d probably sound like one of those guys at FailCon to him.
- timoth3y 5y agoI agree with you. If the talks had been about getting through failure, that it's OK and that this mess of conflicting emotions washing over you will pass, that some friends will drop you, but other will be more accepting than you can imagine, that might have had value. But that would not have been fun. Some speakers did talk briefly and vaguely about how hard it was for them, but quickly, cheerfully moved onto "but here is how I turned it into a huge success. You see, I'm a success. I'm not really a failure." (Not like you.) I don't want to sound like I'm bashing the FailCon people. They all seemed nice, and I think their hearts really are in the right plaice. I just think that "celebrating failure" is wrong-headed. In any event, that FailCon would have been a very dangerous place to be for someone who had just failed and was struggling to get through it.