Doing “nothing” in a different part of the planet is my kind of vacation. Those “spectacular” things might be there occasionally, but I don’t optimize for them.

Doing “nothing” in a different part of the planet is my kind of vacation. Those “spectacular” things might be there occasionally, but I don’t optimize for them. I optimize for having a good time with people I care in places where we get know how other people live, taste what other people eat, appreciate different landscapes. I also optimize for relaxing and thinking about life, without the regular worries I have at home. Walking around to see how different cities are. I don’t optimize for “stories to tell”, “adrenaline”, or “instagrammable moments”. We are different people and there is nothing wrong with your view on vacations. The only issue that I see is when you try to convince your partner (I’m not sure if that’s what “missus” mean) that this a “waste of money”. “Waste” here is completely subjective. There is nothing objective about it as you seem to imply. So I would make sure that they spontaneously agree with your perspective, before trying to convince them of what is a waste of money and what’s not.