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The grass is always greener on the other side. I'm sure more solitary individuals will regret not being more socially active and having fun. On the other side t

The grass is always greener on the other side. I'm sure more solitary individuals will regret not being more socially active and having fun. On the other side though, you will also definitely regret partying too much if it impacts your life outside of it. I would guess that moderation is key and not being too far on one side or the other could optimize for happiness (but it's a guess.. I was too far on the partying side of the spectrum for a good portion of my life and then I over corrected to the other end.. so there are regrets on both ends).

lolinder 5y ago
> more solitary individuals will regret not being more socially active and having fun It's bizarre to me that some people think the opposite of "drinking alcohol" is "being solitary and having no fun". It seems like a lot of people have leaned on alcohol for so long that they've actually become convinced it's the only way.
marginalia_nu 5y ago
A lot of alcohol culture centers around this sort of vague FOMO that you will miss out on all the fun and regret this when you are older. But what is it you are actually doing? In order of increasing inebriation: Mostly sitting around gossiping, possibly making an ass of yourself dancing like a tube man, some occasionally hook up with a stranger for some mediocre to disappointing whisky-dicking. Weekend drinkers, while terrified of having a boring life, are some of the most boring people I know. They never read anything, they never do anything, they never build anything or have any interesting ideas. They're too busy sleeping until noon to have time for that.
- YellowTrooper 5y ago
  It is actually my thoughts on my past life and I fully agree here! Alcohol is making you boring, just because a lot of your energy wasting on consumption, stupid things and recovery, but alcohol left nothing in your life. Even memories. And while you drinking, especially hard, it is hard build anything or implement your ideas - alcohol very often acts as “reset” button (at least in my case) and you not able to develop and maintain any complex idea for a long time - next party will wipe it out.

lolinder 5y ago

> more solitary individuals will regret not being more socially active and having fun It's bizarre to me that some people think the opposite of "drinking alcohol" is "being solitary and having no fun". It seems like a lot of people have leaned on alcohol for so long that they've actually become convinced it's the only way.

marginalia_nu 5y ago

A lot of alcohol culture centers around this sort of vague FOMO that you will miss out on all the fun and regret this when you are older. But what is it you are actually doing? In order of increasing inebriation: Mostly sitting around gossiping, possibly making an ass of yourself dancing like a tube man, some occasionally hook up with a stranger for some mediocre to disappointing whisky-dicking. Weekend drinkers, while terrified of having a boring life, are some of the most boring people I know. They never read anything, they never do anything, they never build anything or have any interesting ideas. They're too busy sleeping until noon to have time for that.

YellowTrooper 5y ago
It is actually my thoughts on my past life and I fully agree here! Alcohol is making you boring, just because a lot of your energy wasting on consumption, stupid things and recovery, but alcohol left nothing in your life. Even memories. And while you drinking, especially hard, it is hard build anything or implement your ideas - alcohol very often acts as “reset” button (at least in my case) and you not able to develop and maintain any complex idea for a long time - next party will wipe it out.