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Could it be that your idea of a boss is how you'd think the world should work, but necessarily not how it does. Kind of like when women say they want men with a

Could it be that your idea of a boss is how you'd think the world should work, but necessarily not how it does. Kind of like when women say they want men with a sensitive side, in touch with emotions, but in reality most women want a strong man who doesn't show any emotions.

deltaonefour 5y ago
>Kind of like when women say they want men with a sensitive side, in touch with emotions, but in reality most women want a strong man who doesn't show any emotions. First off I want to emphasize I agree with this statement. I don't look at the world in an idealistic way. So let's make sure we're on the same page about this. Women are less empathetic and understanding about men than men are about women and this is a generality that is very very true. This entire narrative of the man as a bumbling buffoon trying to understand this mysterious creature called a woman is a false narrative. Women are by far significantly MORE ignorant about how men think, but women in general just don't care as much; hence why you see men coming up with deep behavioral theories about women like "friendzoning" and the like while women dismiss men as muscular simpletons with penises as brains all the while forgetting the fact that men are responsible for the majority of civilization and technology. Either way, I don't have any ire against the behavioral dichotomy between sexes, it's just nature. >Could it be that your idea of a boss is how you'd think the world should work, but necessarily not how it does. I don't think I'm biased. I've worked with leaders who I like and want to succeed. So from experience I've seen it happen. That already literally proves that the world can work this way. Logically as well, employees do their best work when they love their work, if I hate my work and I hate my boss... well I'm only going to do the minimal work to keep him happy. Any other shit that happens I'm sweeping under the rug. Typical example: If I code review an ass holes code and I notice a fatal bug, I'm going to approve it to fuck that ass hole over. Then I'll claim it's my fault for not noticing it during review and the ass hole will get blamed for sloppy code either way. I'm not sure what makes you think the world works that way. From my experience... it doesn't at all. Bosses who do this in my experience literally have to be paying their employees pure gold. In the majority of the software world, however, developers can easily leave and find a job with a better boss. I'm thinking either you're a manager who's paying people 600k salaries or you're an employee receiving that salary. If the salary isn't that high and if you're a manager, you'll note the attrition rate for your team is astronomical. Probably 3x other teams.... unless the entire company has this shitty culture then the attrition rate for the company is huge. If you're an employee and not getting 500k, well... leave now is my advice. I've also seen bosses who are assholes while managing to pay their employees low salaries. This only happens when most of the employees are junior, in the sense that this is their first or second job and don't know any better. Guys who've been around much longer know the difference.
rxhernandez 5y ago
> Kind of like when women say they want men with a sensitive side, in touch with emotions, but in reality most women want a strong man who doesn't show any emotions. Frankly, almost no grown adult wants an emotionally stunted partner who got that way because they never came to grips with their emotions; few people want to deal with childish coping mechanisms from a grown adult.

deltaonefour 5y ago

>Kind of like when women say they want men with a sensitive side, in touch with emotions, but in reality most women want a strong man who doesn't show any emotions. First off I want to emphasize I agree with this statement. I don't look at the world in an idealistic way. So let's make sure we're on the same page about this. Women are less empathetic and understanding about men than men are about women and this is a generality that is very very true. This entire narrative of the man as a bumbling buffoon trying to understand this mysterious creature called a woman is a false narrative. Women are by far significantly MORE ignorant about how men think, but women in general just don't care as much; hence why you see men coming up with deep behavioral theories about women like "friendzoning" and the like while women dismiss men as muscular simpletons with penises as brains all the while forgetting the fact that men are responsible for the majority of civilization and technology. Either way, I don't have any ire against the behavioral dichotomy between sexes, it's just nature. >Could it be that your idea of a boss is how you'd think the world should work, but necessarily not how it does. I don't think I'm biased. I've worked with leaders who I like and want to succeed. So from experience I've seen it happen. That already literally proves that the world can work this way. Logically as well, employees do their best work when they love their work, if I hate my work and I hate my boss... well I'm only going to do the minimal work to keep him happy. Any other shit that happens I'm sweeping under the rug. Typical example: If I code review an ass holes code and I notice a fatal bug, I'm going to approve it to fuck that ass hole over. Then I'll claim it's my fault for not noticing it during review and the ass hole will get blamed for sloppy code either way. I'm not sure what makes you think the world works that way. From my experience... it doesn't at all. Bosses who do this in my experience literally have to be paying their employees pure gold. In the majority of the software world, however, developers can easily leave and find a job with a better boss. I'm thinking either you're a manager who's paying people 600k salaries or you're an employee receiving that salary. If the salary isn't that high and if you're a manager, you'll note the attrition rate for your team is astronomical. Probably 3x other teams.... unless the entire company has this shitty culture then the attrition rate for the company is huge. If you're an employee and not getting 500k, well... leave now is my advice. I've also seen bosses who are assholes while managing to pay their employees low salaries. This only happens when most of the employees are junior, in the sense that this is their first or second job and don't know any better. Guys who've been around much longer know the difference.

rxhernandez 5y ago

> Kind of like when women say they want men with a sensitive side, in touch with emotions, but in reality most women want a strong man who doesn't show any emotions. Frankly, almost no grown adult wants an emotionally stunted partner who got that way because they never came to grips with their emotions; few people want to deal with childish coping mechanisms from a grown adult.