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An example that surprised me: a friend of mine is unable to quit his stressful, unfulfilling high paying job due to alimony from a contentious divorce. Dependin
by ceras 5y ago
An example that surprised me: a friend of mine is unable to quit his stressful, unfulfilling high paying job due to alimony from a contentious divorce. Depending on jurisdiction, alimony payment amounts can be based on your earning potential, not your current income. So if you can earn lot you may be stuck in a job you hate.
- sjg007 5y agotldr; Your friend should talk to an attorney. Yes your ex can argue that you could make more but he could take a similar job with the same skill set that is less stressful. Or if he moves, less by cost of living adjustments etc... But he should be able to quit, there's no forced employment. Obviously, the employer is not a party to the contract either that they have to keep him employed. So he would have to file a motion to decrease the alimony support unless things have been locked in by a separate joint agreement: MN calls this a Karon waiver. If the job is too stressful and impacting his mental health then he should present that evidence with justification from medical experts to the judge... That process could be stressful no doubt but should be worth it. Alimony is also not always criminally enforceable like child support is. A judge could hold you in contempt but it's not going to do much to get you to work if there's no motivation to work. Then the judge would have the additional problem of you being in jail and not being able to work or having to explain to your employer or a new employer why you were in jail. The courts really want a win:win here.
- xunn0026 5y agoThat sounds like the literal definition of indentured servitude.
- 01100011 5y agoThe last lawyer I consulted with basically said they can't force my wife to work because that's slavery. I then asked why they can force me to work and he just went silent. Everyone in that industry knows it's bullshit but they're rich, connected, and unwilling to let it change.
- closeparen 5y agoI simply cannot imagine giving another person this kind of power. If you’re going to risk such a catastrophic failure of the rest of your life for a neuro-chemical experience, heroin seems safer than romance.
- enraged_camel 5y agoMarried people live 7 years longer on average, whereas the same cannot be the same for heroin users. So the two are probably not interchangeable!
- ativzzz 5y agoSo sounds like the futuristic studies on human longevity could be directed to research on keeping people married longer.
- dTal 5y agoMarried people. People who stay married. What happens when you include the third of marriages that end in divorce?
- kentrado 5y agoThat doesn't sound appealing. Taking a huge risk for something that can potentially ruin my finances for an extended period of time in exchange for maybe 7 more years of living. No thanks. That is not a good deal.
- llampx 5y agoCorrelation vs causation. Also, those statistics are from a different time. Let's compare divorced vs never-married to get a fairer picture.
- dustymcp 5y agoIts probably not the heroin but the lifestyle attached to an expensive illegal drug
- dqpb 5y ago> heroin seems safer than romance You can’t propagate the human species with heroin
- MeinBlutIstBlau 5y agoCanada has one of the highest suicide rates among divorced men because of their even more draconian alimony/child support payments. Long story short, don't get married in Canada. Dave Foley on the Joe Rogan Podcasts (in like the 0-200's episodes) went through his divorce and explained how absurd it was.
- satyrnein 5y agoOr it sounds like working hard to earn money to give your children a better life. Which is pretty common!
- Ekaros 5y agoSeems entirely broken system. In fair and just one the person could have quit, and have the other partner support him for rest of the life...