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Two kids is the hard limit for me, and that's two kids who are healthy, "easy" to deal with, and I've had a great marriage with no economic or any other adverse
by kspacewalk2 5y ago
Two kids is the hard limit for me, and that's two kids who are healthy, "easy" to deal with, and I've had a great marriage with no economic or any other adverse events. I just would not have adequate time in the 24 hour day to work, sleep, give them enough attention and have some time for myself. Giving any of that up seems unwise.
- Talanes 5y agoI'm friends with a pair of brothers whose parents adopted two girls when the brothers were in high school. So you can go above two, you just have to stagger in a second pair around when the first pair start to invest more of their time away from you.
- refurb 5y agoAll of those are important factors, and I’m amazed at a friend who has 4. But it also seems like the more educated and higher income, the more neurotic parents get over raising their kid (myself included). You try and optimize a demanding career AND offer your kid every opportunity to learn and engage. My friends with 4 don’t do that. The kids get engagement from each other, so fine in public school and there is no expectation they’ll go to an Ivey League school. Leaves more brain bandwidth and less stress.