Nitpick: Small and medium, not just large public gatherings, and a larger variety of them, are also a big city draw. But one of the biggest big city draws is th

Nitpick: Small and medium, not just large public gatherings, and a larger variety of them, are also a big city draw. But one of the biggest big city draws is the large variety of employment -- not just for you, but your kids. You don't know what career they'll go into and they're more likely to be able to do it while staying near the metro area they grew up in if it's a large one with a good large varied job market, as opposed to having to choose between career and staying near family. Obviously remote/hybrid work makes that a little easier, but a lot of stuff still has to be done on site, it's still a competitive advantage to be able to choose between local AND remote jobs as opposed to ONLY remote jobs because your hometown is so small, and hybrid doesn't really make metro areas irrelevant, it merely expands their size, much as highways and commuter trains once did 50 and 100 or so years ago.