I think learning to tell the difference between healthy discomfort and unhealthy is a very important skill. There are multiple examples in that book of ways in

I think learning to tell the difference between healthy discomfort and unhealthy is a very important skill. There are multiple examples in that book of ways in which a predator will tailor their behavior in ways to make the victim feel social pressure to act in ways that would facilitate harm to the victim. eg. tailgating someone through a secure door by making them feel rude for not holding the door for you. At the same time, some of the most valuable life experiences come from pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. I'm not sure what the solution is. Maybe the advice is better expressed as "learn to listen to your intuition" rather than "always follow your intuition"?