> I still worry if it would have been better for my career to stay and accept the greater abuse, which is fucked up. Am I deflecting responsibility and blaming

> I still worry if it would have been better for my career to stay and accept the greater abuse, which is fucked up. Am I deflecting responsibility and blaming others for my own failures? Etc. Wondering if growing up in a more supportive environment would have helped you advance more quickly is a perfectly reasonable question, that’s not “blaming others for your failures”. Don’t be so hard on yourself, it sounds like you were placed into a very difficult set of circumstances.