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You're already giving a bad example to your kids by drinking alcohol. That's fine. They'll grow up and decide what to do. If they'll drink themselves senseless

You're already giving a bad example to your kids by drinking alcohol. That's fine. They'll grow up and decide what to do. If they'll drink themselves senseless there must be a bigger problem than seeing you drink alcohol in small quantities. I certainly am not doing all the mistakes I saw my father's doing and I hope my kids will grow up to be responsible adults which will make their own decisions. I never lived in a place where weed was legal but for a couple of years I used it as an antidepressant and as a way to unwind. I bought a vaporiser (the healthiest, quickest and hassle-free way to absorb weed - very little smell lingering and you're not smoking paper) and vaped nearly every evening (after kids bedtime) and it was great to survive a hard period of my life. After 2 years I didn't feel the need anymore and I stopped. I can't be bothered to go to onion to buy weed anymore and just drink a beer every once and then when I want to unwind - but if weed was easy to buy I'd definitely buy it and treat it like I treat beers. I'm glad I didn't use alcohol in the same way, merely for the extra calories and for the liver damage. Still, there is a good reason you're fine drinking a beer in front of your kids but you should avoid vaping in front of your kids - and that's merely to avoid exposing them to passive vapour.

kstrauser 5y ago
I’m torn on the setting an example bit. My parents never drank at all, that I know of. Growing up I was led to believe that you drank either never or always, like there was no middle ground. I wish someone had told me or demonstrated that it’s OK and normal to have the occasional drink and then stop. We’re fortunate to live in a house with a yard. If I were going to smoke or vape, it’d be on the back deck. I wouldn’t use it inside any more than I’d use tobacco smoke or vape in my living room. More likely, I’d use an edible. The downside to doing it secretly is that I’m pretty sure my kids in high school know what a stoned person looks like. The last thing I’d want is to have them notice I was under the influence, then come to their own (and wrong) conclusions like “huh, does Dad do this every night? Has he always?”
- freedom2099 5y ago
  My parents drink wine at every meal… there is never water at their table! And yet I have never seen them drink any alcohol without food… my perception when I was young was that wine was just another beverage. As an adult now I pretty much follow their example… I don’t drink if I am not dining… but unlike them I do it onto certain or twice a week.

kstrauser 5y ago

I’m torn on the setting an example bit. My parents never drank at all, that I know of. Growing up I was led to believe that you drank either never or always, like there was no middle ground. I wish someone had told me or demonstrated that it’s OK and normal to have the occasional drink and then stop. We’re fortunate to live in a house with a yard. If I were going to smoke or vape, it’d be on the back deck. I wouldn’t use it inside any more than I’d use tobacco smoke or vape in my living room. More likely, I’d use an edible. The downside to doing it secretly is that I’m pretty sure my kids in high school know what a stoned person looks like. The last thing I’d want is to have them notice I was under the influence, then come to their own (and wrong) conclusions like “huh, does Dad do this every night? Has he always?”

freedom2099 5y ago
My parents drink wine at every meal… there is never water at their table! And yet I have never seen them drink any alcohol without food… my perception when I was young was that wine was just another beverage. As an adult now I pretty much follow their example… I don’t drink if I am not dining… but unlike them I do it onto certain or twice a week.