4 ms·

Understanding no one cares about how I live my life . Far from being a bad thing, this means I can just live without constantly worrying about how others might

Understanding no one cares about how I live my life . Far from being a bad thing, this means I can just live without constantly worrying about how others might perceive me. As long as your not hurting anyone else , just live. We're here for a very short time. Don't waste it on people who never cared

kossTKR 5y ago
That's a great realisation that especially came to me in my thirties through various crisis happening to people around me and myself. Being there when other people have real challenges makes you realise how small status anxiety really is compared, and how much more meaning there is in just enjoying time with good people instead of skating around on the brittle surface.
the_only_law 5y ago
> Understanding no one cares about how I live my life . I don’t think no one cares. In fact, I think there are many people who care too much. However I agree, that is not something you should worry about. Even if I still struggle with it myself often, it’s been freeing to enjoy myself without putting too much weight in what strangers will think of me.
supperburg 5y ago
I don’t agree with this. I think on an intellectual level almost nobody really cares about that kind of thing. But your body decides to feel bad when you believe others are judging you. You can’t control your body and so I would say that the only rational response is to avoid situations that cause you emotional stress and when your body is making itself experience stress because of the perceived judgement of others, just accept that you can’t change it and try to focus on something else.
0x008 5y ago
Also realizing that not everyone has anxiety. Yes lots of people do, but some people don’t. It is something you can live without. It’s not impossible.
nikolqy 5y ago
Your response reminds me of the time (3 weeks ago) when I was really really scared of death (I’m only 19) but I was shaking for days thinking about what happens after and what not because time seems like it’s flying now and that’s when I really decided to think about death. Went online and read at least a thousand different posts about death on quora etc. “We’re here for a very short time”

kossTKR 5y ago

That's a great realisation that especially came to me in my thirties through various crisis happening to people around me and myself. Being there when other people have real challenges makes you realise how small status anxiety really is compared, and how much more meaning there is in just enjoying time with good people instead of skating around on the brittle surface.

the_only_law 5y ago

> Understanding no one cares about how I live my life . I don’t think no one cares. In fact, I think there are many people who care too much. However I agree, that is not something you should worry about. Even if I still struggle with it myself often, it’s been freeing to enjoy myself without putting too much weight in what strangers will think of me.

supperburg 5y ago

I don’t agree with this. I think on an intellectual level almost nobody really cares about that kind of thing. But your body decides to feel bad when you believe others are judging you. You can’t control your body and so I would say that the only rational response is to avoid situations that cause you emotional stress and when your body is making itself experience stress because of the perceived judgement of others, just accept that you can’t change it and try to focus on something else.

0x008 5y ago

Also realizing that not everyone has anxiety. Yes lots of people do, but some people don’t. It is something you can live without. It’s not impossible.

nikolqy 5y ago

Your response reminds me of the time (3 weeks ago) when I was really really scared of death (I’m only 19) but I was shaking for days thinking about what happens after and what not because time seems like it’s flying now and that’s when I really decided to think about death. Went online and read at least a thousand different posts about death on quora etc. “We’re here for a very short time”