First, you have to share your experiences with the deceased with others. Hear what they say about them. In few bursts throughout the day. Get in small groups (b

First, you have to share your experiences with the deceased with others. Hear what they say about them. In few bursts throughout the day. Get in small groups (best if these groups are created spontaneously rather than arranged), and speak about the deceased. Just share. Let others share. Get into maybe 3-4 such discussions per day. Do it for 4-5 days. Write about your feeling with no bars held. Even if you decide to burn the paper later. Write your heart out on paper with pen. Don't edit or filter it. Let it flow undeterred. Sometimes grief strikes you in bouts. After 2-3 days you might feel all okay, like the grief has disappeared, and it doesn't affect you anymore. But it will strike again- in periods- again and again. It is only natural. You should also know that- "everything will be okay" is a lie. You just learn to live with the changed reality. Know that proximity to people who shared their company for prolonged periods of time is the key to get out of grief. Do not avoid your grief. Embrace it and live with it.