When my mother's parents died, I really only cried once, and that was on the way home from what turned out to be the last time I saw my grandfather alive. I lo

When my mother's parents died, I really only cried once, and that was on the way home from what turned out to be the last time I saw my grandfather alive. I loved them both immensely, so it troubled me that I didn't seem more hurt. I felt very self-conscious when one of the people providing hospice care to my grandfather commented that I seemed to be taking things well. After a few years, I realized I wasn't more broken up about their deaths because I had already made peace with the fact that people die before I lost them. People have different relationships with mortality. It's okay if you cry, and it's okay if you don't. It doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you, and there is no right way to grieve. Since you aren't broken by the pain right now, use that composure to provide comfort to your family.